For the first time in years, I am finding myself incredibly into Valentine’s Day. But even in the midst of my newfound enthusiasm, or perhaps because of it, I am noticing how difficult a day this is for many people, particularly those on the aromantic spectrum. On a slightly different note, I’ve been noticing ace rep sneaking its way into YA (young adult) literature, and more and more LGBT+ YouTubers are taking it upon themselves not only to educate about what asexuality is, but that asexuals are not necessarily aromantic, may engage in intercourse for a variety of reason, etc. Amid the rising wave of asexual conversation, I am noticing that aromanticism, particularly the topic of it being its own spectrum, being brushed aside. I identified as aromantic for about a year of my life, and telling people I wasn’t interested in romance was met with pity nine out of ten times. My point: aromantics are not told they are complete and valid nearly enough, so, without further ado, an ode.
Ode to you, you majestic dateless ones.
Shunning the sweet psychosis of romance and daring to do what society continually
broadcasts is impossible –
being happy alone,
complete in oneself, refusing to hop on a shelf and tell yourself that real happiness will
come when you find “the one”.
And why must the mystical one be tied to you with red and pink strings?
Can’t “the one” be a treasured friend? Someone with whom you have unparalleled fun?
You are not the one who is broken.
It is high time the inferno of romantic obsession cease to be stoked so that, in the
terrifying new darkness, the light of real friendship can shine.
Don’t you dare listen to the ignorant voices filling you with their own fears, you are just
not heartless, not cold, not a robot.
You are bold.
I apologize for the delay, this was supposed to be posted yesterday, but I had a run in with a traffic cone that then decided to wedge itself under my car. The good news is that after three hours and many phone calls it was extracted, but I was simply too mentally drained after that event and the hour drive back to my home to even think about doing anything but taking a bath and going to bed. Not that anyone necessarily needed/ wanted to know that, but there is it. My exciting Valentine’s day.
Until next time,
Keep oooooon Aceing It!